Month: December 2022
by Brandie Lyday, 12/15/22
Couples come into family therapy for many different reasons. There may have been relationship violation, like an affair or secret spending, difficulty with parenting decisions, increasingly harmful arguments, or a lack of satisfying sex. While this is just the tip of the iceberg for why a couple may seek therapy, the overall goals of couples therapy remains the same: Increase communication and connection while healing relational hurts.
“This is the most common example of disconnection between wants and desires, and it has nothing to do with the person you are with.”
by Melissa Bradfield, 12/8/22
Wanting sex and desiring sex do not always equal. Many people experience a disconnect between the wanting and the desiring at some point in their life. Have you ever said or thought, “I just want to want sex.” This is the most common example of disconnection between wants and desires, and it has nothing to do with how much you love the person you’re with. In fact, the more you love the person you’re with, the more difficult the disconnection between want and desire can be.
So the question is, how do you bridge the gap? What is important to know is that although this gap may be a new thing for you or an old thing you’re just tired of, know that it’s common, normal even, and there is nothing wrong with you. If you’re one of those people reading this and thinking, “but it didn’t use to be this way. I use to want sex all the time. This isn’t my normal!”